Metal hearts

A good friend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend and she is hurting a lot. She asked me the other day, "why is this happening to me, why did God allow this to happen?" I had no answer to this, in fact, this is something I've been wondering as well. I think we all have our fantasy of meeting that special someone, fall in love, get married, then grow old together. We often think that it just happens once, when we see that person, we'll just know he or she is the one. Recently, I've realized that this is quite a gullible view of relationship. Although I believe that God has a perfect person for each one of us, I no longer think it occurs just like that.

I think two people in a relationship are like two halves in a metal heart key chain like the one pictured above. Both parts have jagged edges, but they somehow fit perfectly together to form one perfect heart. However, in order to made that metal half heart into that particular shape, it takes a lot of time and effort. It takes melting, sawing, sanding, and bending to create that perfect shape. This is the same for us. In order to fit with person God has for us, God needs to first shape us into that person we need to be. And how does He shape us? He shapes us by allowing us to go through trials so we can learn and grow. It is through these painful trials that we slowly becoming closer to the shape of that half metal heart. Note that both pieces of the heart are not perfect, they all have jagged edges, yet somehow they just fit with each other. This is the same with us, we will never reach a point of perfection. But our jagged edge will somehow fit with the person God has for us, and we will learn and be able to accept the other person's imperfections. In other words, we will be able to absorb eachother's jagged edges. 

This is why I don't think we should regret any relationship we've been in because it is through these relationships we become who we are today. Although when the relationship ends and we've lost something so important to us, we've also gained so much in return. So please never give up on finding love, because each time we fail, we've learned and we've grown, and we are one step closer to becoming that jagged, yet fitting half metal heart.

So what does this mean for those who are going through a heartbreak right now? It means we have to fix our gazes on Him and trust that He has a better plan for us.

"I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways. I will delight in your statutes; I will not forget your words" Psalm 119:15-16

And what are God's promises? He promised that He will be with us as we go through this painful trial.

"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18

He also promised healing. Although it's hard to see it right now, but over time, the wound will be begin to heal and a scar will form.

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3